Family woes
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rkoldSometimes I just feel like I can not win.
My mother is being extremely cranky about my choice in stroller because the people in her office do not approve of it. ~.~ Yes, you read that right, the mothers in her office do not approve of it, so she is being difficult about it. She thinks it is a waste of money and that I do not need a stroller/should stick to a snap-n-go. I personally *HATE* snap-n-gos. I know they are super popular and lot of people swear by them, but I just do not like them at all. I want a real stroller, particularly since after 6 weeks I can join an actual stroller group in my area with other mothers and get exercise and meet people! I've looked at a few other brands, but a 6 week old really does need a bassinet. Hubby says I should just buy the stroller I want and since it's our money that does make the most sense. I mean I've been good and sold a bunch of dolls so I have the money for my stroller.
In other news, my aunt is being difficult. My aunt is super observant Jewish, so for the naming I want to be sure to use a caterer she approves of. I found 2 on the internet that do kosher menus. I was recommended 1 from someone in my synagogue, and got 2 names from my Aunt. She also recommended using Golden Glow for dessert and having tried them before, I *HATE* their desserts. I'd rather eat paper. They are dirt cheap, but so completely gross. (The 2 from my aunt are the only definites she approves of. So over the last few days I've been calling people. The ones from the synagogue, Plaza Dining are on vacation until Sunday. I spoke to ACI and they seemed OK. They won't let me test their food first though, and their menu is only so creative. I appreciate traditional things, but their menu is a little too fishy and heavy and the woman seemed taken aback at the idea of making pasta salad w/o mayo. (My money, my food neuroses) The Whisk, the other internet place, called me back, but I've not had a chance to call them yet. My aunt recommended Gemstone of gotcholent.com and Cafe Cino, though she wanted Gemstone could be pricey since they tried to use organic. Well, Cafe Cino won't do CT, but when I spoke to Ari at Gemstone we really clicked and I think he totally understands my thoughts on food. He might be expensive, but I feel like he can be creative and will relish rules like no mayo and no fish rather than see things as restricting. I had a certain trepidation though when I remembered the food at my Cousins Miriam's baby naming. It was edible... but very... mediocre. And I suddenly worried that Gemstone might be one of those places that bites off more than it can chew.
Well the caterer for the baby naming was Cafe Cino, so I felt relieved, but now my Aunt is really pushing that we use Cafe Cino and is even offering to bring everything up herself since they won't do CT.
I am just like: .......
For the shower, which turned out to be much smaller than anticipated and where I bought some food outside of the Whole Paycheck catering, my Mom was still 15 minutes late with the catered stuff. My aunt has 4 or 5 kids still at home as well as my grandmother... the whole family is always at least 30 minutes + late to everything... no way do I want them to be in charge of bringing up all the food to my event which could have as many as 50+ people in attendance. Even if everyone is on Jewish time and it starts late, I don't want to be waiting on food.
While I appreciate my aunt wanting to save me money, I also feel like.. it's my money, my baby, let me splurge if I want to! Heck, I don't even have a price quote yet from anyone! It's not as if I am expecting to have lots more kids. At this point, Ryuchan is going to be an only child and going a little overboard on an only child is a tradition, right?
My mother is being extremely cranky about my choice in stroller because the people in her office do not approve of it. ~.~ Yes, you read that right, the mothers in her office do not approve of it, so she is being difficult about it. She thinks it is a waste of money and that I do not need a stroller/should stick to a snap-n-go. I personally *HATE* snap-n-gos. I know they are super popular and lot of people swear by them, but I just do not like them at all. I want a real stroller, particularly since after 6 weeks I can join an actual stroller group in my area with other mothers and get exercise and meet people! I've looked at a few other brands, but a 6 week old really does need a bassinet. Hubby says I should just buy the stroller I want and since it's our money that does make the most sense. I mean I've been good and sold a bunch of dolls so I have the money for my stroller.
In other news, my aunt is being difficult. My aunt is super observant Jewish, so for the naming I want to be sure to use a caterer she approves of. I found 2 on the internet that do kosher menus. I was recommended 1 from someone in my synagogue, and got 2 names from my Aunt. She also recommended using Golden Glow for dessert and having tried them before, I *HATE* their desserts. I'd rather eat paper. They are dirt cheap, but so completely gross. (The 2 from my aunt are the only definites she approves of. So over the last few days I've been calling people. The ones from the synagogue, Plaza Dining are on vacation until Sunday. I spoke to ACI and they seemed OK. They won't let me test their food first though, and their menu is only so creative. I appreciate traditional things, but their menu is a little too fishy and heavy and the woman seemed taken aback at the idea of making pasta salad w/o mayo. (My money, my food neuroses) The Whisk, the other internet place, called me back, but I've not had a chance to call them yet. My aunt recommended Gemstone of gotcholent.com and Cafe Cino, though she wanted Gemstone could be pricey since they tried to use organic. Well, Cafe Cino won't do CT, but when I spoke to Ari at Gemstone we really clicked and I think he totally understands my thoughts on food. He might be expensive, but I feel like he can be creative and will relish rules like no mayo and no fish rather than see things as restricting. I had a certain trepidation though when I remembered the food at my Cousins Miriam's baby naming. It was edible... but very... mediocre. And I suddenly worried that Gemstone might be one of those places that bites off more than it can chew.
Well the caterer for the baby naming was Cafe Cino, so I felt relieved, but now my Aunt is really pushing that we use Cafe Cino and is even offering to bring everything up herself since they won't do CT.
I am just like: .......
For the shower, which turned out to be much smaller than anticipated and where I bought some food outside of the Whole Paycheck catering, my Mom was still 15 minutes late with the catered stuff. My aunt has 4 or 5 kids still at home as well as my grandmother... the whole family is always at least 30 minutes + late to everything... no way do I want them to be in charge of bringing up all the food to my event which could have as many as 50+ people in attendance. Even if everyone is on Jewish time and it starts late, I don't want to be waiting on food.
While I appreciate my aunt wanting to save me money, I also feel like.. it's my money, my baby, let me splurge if I want to! Heck, I don't even have a price quote yet from anyone! It's not as if I am expecting to have lots more kids. At this point, Ryuchan is going to be an only child and going a little overboard on an only child is a tradition, right?
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Date: 2010-10-01 02:50 pm (UTC)(Does your aunt read this journal?)
(Just in case I will put this comment in parentheses because that is TOTALLY the same as whispering ;p)
(I think that, as the mom, you are TOTALLY within your rights to spend as much as you'd like to make sure that you get the food that you want, as promptly as you'd like it.
I mean come on, this is literally a once-in-a-lifetime event. Even if you end up having more kids, Ryu-chan will only have ONE baby naming. Might as well make sure that everything that can go smoothly/deliciously does!)
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Date: 2010-10-01 03:42 pm (UTC)I have a few cousins who use Facebook, but I think they all have issues with their mom at times and I doubt would squeal.
Its just frustrating because while I appreciate her worrying about our budget ahead of time for us, I really do not want to have to rely on someone else to bring our food to us. If I am paying for a caterer, I want someone who will make sure the food is there when the event starts and is ready to go.
And honestly, I would rather pay more for non-mediocre food, unless Kennis says we're going to be overbudget otherwise.
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Date: 2010-10-04 12:26 pm (UTC)I know your family is trying to help, but honestly it's yours and Kennis' money so it's nobody else's business how you spend it. They have their priorities and budgets and you have yours. If you have the means and desire, go ahead and get the stroller you want and the caterer you want!
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Date: 2010-10-04 12:57 pm (UTC)I wish you were here to attend as well! But it went well and I am hopeful that the baby naming will work out.
I understand why they want me to budget but I also sold off a bunch of dolls just so I can splurge on a stroller. I do care about the budget with the caterer and if the one is outrageous, he will be cut but I am willing to spend more than 500-1000 to have a good baby naming. It's not like I plan to have lots more lol